“I’m not feeling well; u know, it’s premenstrual syndrome”
-said she, my close friend when I asked her about the unhappiness.
“But dear, how could I know, it’s totally a woman thing” – I replied.
“I mean, to understand”- she again told.
“Sure, hope you will feel better soon” – I said.
While saying all these things, neither she nor I felt anything unusual or odd. Then you may think why should I write this here.
I request you to listen this.
One fine morning my friend told me about a boy. He lost his mother when he was at the age of two. He has no siblings. For the sake of his future, his father sent him to a boarding school. Things began to change when he entered into the fascinating world of adolescence. Unfortunately it was not a mixed school. So he got little chance to meet or talk with girls. But he used to get information about them through porn sites and adult video clips. So his idea about woman and womanhood is limited to what he perceives from the porn videos.
He lost touch with the real society. For him a woman is just a tool for man’s physical pleasure. He knows nothing about her feelings and emotions.
My friend continued – “Now for this boy, even the undergarments of a woman itself are creating sexual feelings. So I’m afraid, if he happens to see women in bikini….”
I intruded “Nothing will happen; and if he used to see and relate with them, he will become natural.”
Let me tell one thing also.
A proud father of a teenage son told me once – “I train my son very strictly; I want to see him well disciplined. And I’m worried that the T.V channels are now telecasting the ad visuals of sanitary napkins and contraceptives during prime time. But however I am managing well to change the channel when these ads arise”
I told him “Due to this, firstly you are destroying the possibility of your son to live and grow in awareness; secondly you are cultivating unnecessary curiosity in your teenage son”
Boys and girls need to communicate well; during adolescence they are much curious about many things as they both undergoes changes physically and emotionally.
All we need is a healthy community. So we need to avoid unnatural and unhealthy practices. Restrictions between men and women should be removed.
We need healthy relationships; we need to see our men and women living together in harmony. Otherwise they will feel uncomfortable; they will feel uneasiness.
